Being a female software engineer

Group therapy for our many shared experiences

When a male coworker says there are no women in IT while standing right beside me

When a male coworker says there are no women in IT while standing right beside me

When someone says “that’s not ladylike!”

When someone says “that’s not ladylike!”

When someone first realizes how sexist and deeply fucked up the joke is

When someone first realizes how sexist and deeply fucked up the joke is

When someone uses my library in a weekend project. 

When someone uses my library in a weekend project. 

When I interrupt a meeting with some quantitative feedback

When I interrupt a meeting with some quantitative feedback

When I go to a conference in DC

When I go to a conference in DC

When company lawyers tell me (a CS PhD) to find a nice boy and get married for a green card

When company lawyers tell me (a CS PhD) to find a nice boy and get married for a green card

When a straight white guy thinks tech is a post-privilege meritocracy

When a straight white guy thinks tech is a post-privilege meritocracy

When I’m telling a new coworker about the sexist office bullies

When I’m telling a new coworker about the sexist office bullies

When someone says “you only got into MIT because you’re a girl

When someone says “you only got into MIT because you’re a girl”

When I tell a guy at a party I’m a programmer and he’s like “Oh yeah? What’s a singleton then?”

When I tell a guy at a party I’m a programmer and he’s like “Oh yeah? What’s a singleton then?”