Being a female software engineer

Group therapy for our many shared experiences

When someone first realizes how sexist and deeply fucked up the joke is

When someone first realizes how sexist and deeply fucked up the joke is

When someone uses my library in a weekend project. 

When someone uses my library in a weekend project. 

When I interrupt a meeting with some quantitative feedback

When I interrupt a meeting with some quantitative feedback

When I go to a conference in DC

When I go to a conference in DC

When company lawyers tell me (a CS PhD) to find a nice boy and get married for a green card

When company lawyers tell me (a CS PhD) to find a nice boy and get married for a green card

When a straight white guy thinks tech is a post-privilege meritocracy

When a straight white guy thinks tech is a post-privilege meritocracy

When I’m telling a new coworker about the sexist office bullies

When I’m telling a new coworker about the sexist office bullies

When someone says “you only got into MIT because you’re a girl

When someone says “you only got into MIT because you’re a girl”

When I tell a guy at a party I’m a programmer and he’s like “Oh yeah? What’s a singleton then?”

When I tell a guy at a party I’m a programmer and he’s like “Oh yeah? What’s a singleton then?”

When my all-female programming team wins top honors for our capstone project and some dude engineer says to my face “you know they only gave you the award because you were the girl team”

When my all-female programming team wins top honors for our capstone project and some dude engineer says to my face “you know they only gave you the award because you were the girl team”